Learn how to respond/react to chao

I have understood my love to Terence is by "Patience in Love" in order to respond to his "Empty in Spirit" rebellious to parents and God.

To react, I will certainly:

• feeling disappointed;
• discouraged;
• anxiety or anger
• lost etc.....

To respond, I did:

• said "sorry" to the school teacher and request their understanding of his unintention in violating school rule;
• asked for help in maintaining his school progress during the period of absence from school;
• checked with the school whether Terence has honestly spoke up the causes.

And at last, I asked desparately for help from God:

• How could I help Terence in this case;
• What does it mean to Terence and me for the happening of this case;
• Thanks God for given me and Terence a lesson to learn, and what is it be specific and all about?
• How could this case could become a valuable turnaround point for Terence in his future adult life?
• What scripture is right to support his heart to repent and restore in Christ?
• Who should I talk to in order to calm down my feelings?
• How to explain the course to Ben, and what will he react?

Terence went to sleep over a Clavin's home at Tung Chung on last Saturday. Clavin is Terence's friend in SIS and went to US to pursue his high school two years ago. Clavin and Terence became good friends to each other because Terence was well taking care Clavin when he was burried by others in SIS.

Surprisingly, Terence returned home with a bull head. He shaved all his hair off. Of course I was astonished with his decision but still want him to take his own responsibility and consequence. I could feel that he also found regret for he originally just wanted to have the hair cut very very short but not bull. Only until late Sunday evening, he recognized that there may be some punishment from the school.

I received a call from his teacher right after lunch with Annisa, Sany and Mom at Festival Walk in Kowloon Tong. Teacher said that they have to send Terence home until his hair comes out again (this Thursdau).

This is the second time Terence made big mistake. I thought his act of this time is lacking consideration on the condequence of whichever he made a decision or an act. Last time he was drunk and hurt his head by playing basket ball. What he learned last time was not to drink and drunk because that will make his mind unclear. What did he learn from this time?

As a mother, what did I learn as well?

• I came to understand how teenagers are acting witout deep thoughts on the consequence.
• I came to understand that a deep and self-awakening learning requires a suffering.
• To the teenager that may be a suffering and to the people around him is a matter of disturbance and hurt which requires lots of understanding, patience and acceptance. If there comes a real repentance, people around will be joyful for the future of that teenage.
• I came to understand that if one cannot learn anything from the lesson, he then indeed hurting himself and people around.
• I came to understand that anything happenings have its own reason and timing, learn how to respond calmly is better than react fiercely.
• I came to understand how much I had hurt my parents when I was young too.
• I came to understand how God has forgiven my sins.
• I came to understanding how much I need God so as my children for their lives.